Gossipers be like:
Gossip-ee be like:
As a human being, we always judge each other on how we are dressed, how we look. Basically, judgement is made based on the things that are externally shown. Like a saying, “Don’t judge a book based on its cover,” we never know if the contents are good until we read it and get to know it. But, most of the time, we only look at the cover and that’s the end of it. We never really get to know that person or that book. That is Not our fault however, because that’s how we were made. Our mind only want to know or look further into something when that thing sounds interesting to us. Otherwise, we ignore them. Just like this title that I put as my blog post title. If you are reading this post, then that means I have succeeded in increasing your curiosity and grasped your interest. Nice, and thank you all for reading this post. 🙂
With that being said, I’m going to start talking about why gossiping is good. So, we all know that there’s always a good side and a bad side to everything. Nothing is perfect, right? Therefore, gossiping also play its role in being a two-sided, imperfect creation of our nature. Gossiping has a negative connotation to it already when the word is being spoken. But, have you ever think about the reasons behind why people gossip? Probably not, right? Don’t worry, me neither. Like everyone else out there in this world, whenever I hear the word or think of the word “gossiping,” I think of it as a bad thing. But, just minutes ago before I started to write about this blog, my thinking about the word “gossiping” changed thanks to my English teacher. He opened up my view and make me want to write about this post.
So first of all, gossiping all started because of something we see and it later became known as rumors. Now, some rumors are good and some are bad. Some are lies but some are the truths. We never know for sure. However, most of the time in high school, we gossip about people who are weird and people who we hate or dislike. Since the “normal” people gossip about “weird” people, doesn’t that make the “weird” people interesting? They stand out and are different from the rest of us, that’s why people talk about them. That could be a good thing don’t you think?
But the thing is that most of the time, we believed the rumors. We did not even bother to try to understand or try to find out and prove if they are actually true or not. That is the bad part. What we should do is that we should learn about that person, get to know them more before start judging them. Who knows? We might find that they are actually very cool, nice, chill, and interesting, and we could even become best friends with them. That is when we make judgment for ourselves about how that person is like.
However, most of the time I think why people gossip about others is because they are jealous, or they have too much free time, or they just don’t have confidence in themselves. What I mean by this is that they enjoy or feel happiness by seeing someone else suffer. They do that so they could feel better about themselves. Sometimes, gossipers are just like bullies. There are many reasons why bullies and bullying exist but I’m not going to explain nor talk any further into or about them right now. Maybe I should make a blog post about that topic. 🙂
Okay so, well, basically, what I’m trying to say through this post overall is that, Don’t let others decide your judgement and decisions about a person for you. You should make your own choice whether or not that person is like how others (the gossipers) describe them based on your knowledge and facts. You have to have your own opinions and test it out. Don’t just believe everything people say right away. That is how I am personally, that is me. For me, what I would do is that I would keep what people say in mind but I’m still going to talk to that specific person and spend time with them to see how many percent are true and how many percent are false. That’s just some of my advice. Good luck and have a nice day~! 😉
*And by the way, just a little note for you here—>*
P.s.: Reality check- DON’T GOSSIP, IT IS NEVER GOOD! (Most of the time, it IS Bad). Don’t get tricked by the title. Because, “Gossiping about someone can take less than a minute but the pain it causes them can last a lifetime.”